Men are Killing Women from the Inside Out

Shocking statement right? Good. My goal was to grab your attention because there is an epidemic that very few are willing to talk about.

For the past several years, I’ve been studying and learning all about the effects that stress can have on the body because no matter what I did, I couldn’t seem to fully heal. I wanted to find the ROOT cause for my struggles. What I have discovered is shocking and infuriating!

Did you know that 90% of disease can be traced to stress? Stress can be defined as any action or situation that our bodies perceive as stressors that trigger our natural stress response which is when our adrenals kick in and release cortisol. Our bodies are neurologically wired to constantly send feedback from our thoughts, feelings, emotions and environment. If we are under constant or frequent mental, physical and environmental stress, there is a constant production of cortisol…which is extremely unhealthy. It causes a constant state of fight or flight. Stress ultimately destroys our immune system, and makes us vulnerable to all sorts of diseases. Also, women/girls who experience some form of stress producing abuse (physical, verbal, patriarchal oppression) have a 50% higher chance of developing an auto-immune disease in their lifetime. Let that sink in. 50% higher chance!

The past 8-10 years I’ve been talking with women who have escaped different forms of abuse. More often than not the abuse can be traced back to communities and groups who hold to the view of strict patriarchal oppression. These patriarchal ideals have been the means of excusing and accepting multiple forms of abuse. As if that isn’t disturbing enough, I have recently discovered that 100% of these women now have underlying health conditions that they can’t seem to fully recover from. WHY? Why do they have these issues? Why can’t they heal?

It’s quite simple actually once you connect all the dots. I’ll use my own life as an example. When I married my husband 17+ years ago, he had no clue the struggles that awaited us. I asked him recently to describe me in those first few months/years of marriage, and here are his words, “Completely helpless, didn’t know how to make a decision, full of guilt and totally kowtowed to your parents.”. A recipe for marital bliss right there, don’t ya think?

To say my brain was filled with faulty indoctrination would be an understatement. I was constantly anxious, didn’t view myself as having any value, believed I was inadequate, and was basically living in a constant state of stress even though I was no longer living in an unhealthy home environment. Because of the faulty stories in my brain (MY THOUGHTS, MY EMOTIONS and MY FEELINGS) my body remained in a state of constant fight or flight. This meant that my body was constantly pumping out cortisol which we have already established makes us vulnerable to disease. In order to find healing, I would have to get down to the faulty neurological wiring and stories that abuse and oppression had caused. The past year and a half, that’s exactly what I’ve been doing, and NOW I am seeing my body finally begin to heal.

So, yes, men, fathers, brothers, husbands and pastors who cover and excuse their abusive ways under the guise of patriarchy ARE killing women from the inside out. The science is very clear on this. I for one have had enough and refuse to remain silent. Silence has been their goal all along. Women have achieved too much to stop now. We must speak our minds even if our voice shakes, because someone’s life may depend upon it.

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